Welcome to the madness that is one enby’s quest to acquire and evaluate every flicky licky toy available at major online sex toy retailers.

What is an oral sex simulator?

When I say “oral sex simulator,” I’m referring to a sex toy that provides stimulation that is in some way comparable to oral sex sensations. In this case, we’re talking about tongue movement.

Sex toys are miraculous tools, but they cannot fully, accurately replicate oral sex. They can try (and their marketing can make some grandiose claims), but the experience is never going to be interchangeable. The stimulation an “oral sex simulator” provides is its own unique thing.

What kind of tongue toys are there?

There’s no “official” terminology to categorize oral sex simulators. But since there’s a few distinct archetypes for these toys, I’ve devised my own terms to differentiate them.

Flappers are toys with (usually stiff) tongues that mechanically sway up and down.

Flickers are toys with smaller, thin, tab-like tongues that rapidly flutter.

Massagers are toys without defined tongues; instead, they have swirling, rubbing nubs.

Rigid Tongues are toys that don’t move mechanically; instead, vibrations make their tips flicker/flap.

Swirlers are toys that usually have multiple tongue flaps that spin or twirl.

New toy designs are being released all the time. This guide is an ever-evolving work in progress.

FLAPPER STYLE ORAL SEX SIMULATORS

These are toys with (usually stiff) tongues that mechanically sway up and down.

👍 Pipedream Fantasy for Her Ultimate Pleasure Oral Sex Simulator & Pump

Product Stats

• $120 USD ($160 USD for limited edition)
• Purple/pink or red/gold
• 10 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✖️ Waterproof
• ✖️ Quiet (robotic tongue is pretty loud/shrill)
• Not easy cleaning (connector where pump cups click in needs special attention)

Her Ultimate Pleasure is a licking toy, “pussy” pump, and insertable vibrator all rolled into one.

The tongue’s rigid flapping feels best when I’m already aroused. It rhythmically sweeps over my clit like a windshield wiper, with buzzy vibrations that add an extra zing. The toy’s long handle makes it easy to hold in place however I want… but because I have a thick outer labia, I have to hold myself open with my other hand.

Ultimate Pleasure has two differently shaped, detachable pump cups to fasten over a vulva or chest. The suction comes in incredibly strong pulses that pull and release while the mechanical tongue swipes back and forth. (If you’re a pumping beginner, the strong suction and lack of quick release button are cause for concern.) You can also use the Ultimate Pleasure without the pump, or turn it around and use the vibrating handle.

The vibrating handle is an alright bonus. It’s well-shaped – similar to the Blush G Curve – but the vibrations are numbingly buzzy. It makes the toy more versatile, but that’s only a bonus if you have a limited collection and/or need something to redeem the toy if the tongue doesn’t do it for you.

Does it feel like oral sex?

The Ultimate Pleasure’s tongue is far too small and firm to feel super “real.” However, when I’m really turned on and using good lube, the robotic lapping feels a lot like when a partner stiffens their tongue and uses the tip to flick my clit. The pump suction’s firm squeeze and release isn’t comparable to a mouth’s sucking/pleasuring, but if you enjoy a lot of pressure it’s still great.

READ FULL ULTIMATE PLEASURE REVIEW

👍 Sir Richard’s Control Rim Joy Anal Rimmer

Product Stats

• $60 USD
• Black
• 5 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof
• ✖️ Quiet (not super loud, but emits a noisy whine)
• Kinda easy cleaning (those seams, ugh)

This toy isn’t just for butt stuff! (But I also enjoy it for that purpose.) Just make sure to wash the tongue with a 10% bleach solution to sanitize it between uses.

The Rim Joy is like a palm-friendly version of the Ultimate Pleasure. Their tongues are nearly identical. The Rim Joy has removable nozzle so you have the option if you need help directing/steadying the tongue. It also has a warming function and a lid for dust-free storage and travel.

The Rim Joy’s tongue is firm, and it licks in steady, up and down windshield wiper strokes. The tongue simultaneously vibrates (a function you can’t turn off) with tickley, buzzy vibes. It moves with the same weight and push as a fingertip; its motor/anchor is stronger than the Ultimate Pleasure’s, so you can apply more pressure without the toy stalling. This toy is also more direct/targeted than the Laguna Beach Lover’s long tongue.

The heating function is kinda eh. It stays in the center of the tongue, so you can’t feel it at all if you’re using the nozzle. I rarely use the nozzle, but it’s easy to remove, and the silicone is unobtrusive and medium-soft.

Does it feel like oral sex?

The Rim Joy’s tongue is far too small and firm to feel super “real.” However, when I’m really turned on and using good lube, the robotic lapping feels a lot like when a partner stiffens their tongue and uses the tip to flick my clit.

READ FULL RIM JOY REVIEW

👎 Nu Sensuelle Trinitii Flickering Tongue Vibrator With Suction

Product Stats

• $90 USD
• Blue-green and violet
• 5.5 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✖️ Waterproof (only spashproof)
• ✖️ Quiet (not super loud, but emits a noisy whine)
• Difficult to clean (nozzle needs thorough cleaning but also can’t be filled with water)

The Nu Sensuelle Trinitii is like a hybrid of the flapping and flickering style tongue toys. Within its small nozzle is a narrow silicone tab that looks like a flickering tongue toy’s, but wags like a flapping tongue toy. The Trinitii also offers powerful suction and a vibrating handle.

The Trinitii’s buttons are super easy to click. Like, so easy that this toy will regularly turn itself on in storage and scare the shit out of me at 2 AM.

The tongue element of this toy is interesting. It swipes up and down, never faster than a finger can wag, but unlike the similarly paced Rim Joy, the tongue is a small, smacky tab. It doesn’t offer the same broad pressure as the Rim Joy’s licking. Like the Aria Flutter, the tab is inside a nozzle – but the tongue is much closer to the entrance. Even if you have a “buried” clit, you’ll probably be able to reach the tongue.

The suction feature is frustrating. The nozzle is soft, so it’s super comfortable to have against my body. The suction is very strong, very direct (because the nozzle is so small) and thus can become painful very quickly. Some folks love really hard suction, so that wouldn’t be a problem… except there’s no quick release button. Once this thing sucks you in, you have to physically pull it off your clitoris. On one occasion, I hurt my clitoral hood when removing the Trinitii and found blood. I gotta thumbs-down just for that.

The Trinitii’s vibrations are medium-strength (stronger than the Iroha Zen but weaker than the We-Vibe Tango) and a buzzy-rumbly hybrid. That means they rumble deep, but they also have some surface buzzing.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Like all of the flapper tongue toys, the Trinitii comes close to a rigid, robotic rendition of oral sex. Because of its thin, narrow tongue, it’s the least “real” feeling.

👍 CalExotics California Dreaming Laguna Beach Lover

Product Stats

• $68 USD
• Red (reddish-orange?)
• 8 inches long
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof (only spashproof)
• ✖️ Quiet (emits a noisy whirring)
• Kinda easy to clean (ugh, seams)

The Laguna Beach Lover is a self-thrusting (or rather, flapping) tongue. It has a handle with buttons to separately control its robotically wagging tongue and strong but buzzy/itchy vibrations.

If you’re looking for the best insertable tongue toy on this list, you’ve found it. The Laguna Beach Lover’s tongue is textured and spongy. The full tongue length rigidly flaps up and down, making it the longest functional tongue on this list.

It’s a little weird finding a good angle to use this toy on my clit, especially since I have thick outer labia that have to be parted. The tongue’s up and down swings are wide, so it knocks into my vulva as it licks. I often turn it to the side so I can get better clit coverage. It feels great, though. The tongue’s lube-wet, steady swipes work me over like a sexy windshield wiper.

The Laguna Beach Lover’s downside is that its motor isn’t as powerful as the Rim Joy’s. It doesn’t stall out if you apply too much pressure, but it doesn’t really push back either. It just keeps a’nudgin’. Internally, its waggling doesn’t feel powerful, but it does feel active, languid, and sometimes that’s exactly the right speed.

Does it feel like oral sex?

If you use the very tip or turn it and use the side, the Laguna Beach Lover does feel pretty realistic. Clumsy, robotic, but still quite tongue-like, especially when doused with lube. If you want a vaguely realistic oral penetration experience, insert the first few inches.

READ FULL LAGUNA BEACH LOVER REVIEW

FLICKER STYLE ORAL SEX SIMULATORS

These are toys with smaller, thin, tab-like tongues that rapidly flutter.

👍 CalExotics French Kiss Casanova / Charmer / Sweet Talker Clitoral Stimulator

Product Stats

• $60 USD (or $60 USD for the Casanova)
• Red
• Size
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof
• ✔️ Quiet (flapping tongue makes a vibration-like hum against skin)
• Easy to clean

The French Kiss Charmer, Sweet Talker, and Casanova are bulb-shaped sex toys with tiny tongues. The tongues rapidly flutter to provide a harsh, flickering stimulation. The Casanova comes with an attached egg vibrator that can be inserted or used instead of the tongue. The vibrations are pitchy/buzzy.

The French Kiss toys are an acquired taste. Like the Zalo Hero and Shots Dreamy, the tongue tab’s flickering feels really abrasive and kinda sting-y. You can hold them closer to your body to muffle the sensation (since less room to flap means less force) but it’s still sharper feeling than vibration. If your clitoris is “buried” by your outer labia like mine, you’ll have to spread yourself open even with the wide nozzle-face around the tongue.

If you enjoy a lot of harsh friction (like quick, firm licks that veer past “comfortable”; taps on the clit; using the edge of a bullet vibe), you might enjoy this hummingbird of a tongue. I have to already be aroused to enjoy the Casanova… but when I am, I really do.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Not tongue-based oral sex, no. The rapid fluttering tongue feels like a continuous bite, but in a good way?

READ FULL FRENCH KISS CASANOVA/CHARMER REVIEW

👍 Shots Dreamy Oral Sex Simulating Clitoral Stimulator

Product Stats

• $70 USD
• Rosegold/black
• 5.5 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof
• ✖️ Quiet (quieter when pressed against you)
• Easy to clean

The Dreamy Clitoral Stimulator has a comfortable handhold and a short, open-faced nozzle with a tiny tongue tab. The tab flutters so fast it looks like a blur in use.

The Dreamy Clitoral Stimulator’s rapidly flickering tab is thicker, firmer, and half as tall as the French Kiss Casanova’s. So although it’s the same idea, the Dreamy’s tongue is closer, heavier – more thuddy than the whip-like French Kiss toys. The flickering feels more refined. Unlike other flicker-style tongue toys, I can comfortably use the Dreamy even before I’m aroused.

In fact, the Dreamy kinda feels a lot like an air pulsation toy (like Womanizer or Satisfyer.) Both types of toys use quick, fluttering stimulation, so I guess that makes sense even though the tech couldn’t be more different.

To be honest, the Dreamy is my favorite flicker-style tongue toy. It’s pricier, but it’s such a well-made toy. If you’re not sure you’ll enjoy flicker toys, the Dreamy is the ideal model to try, because its stimulation is more comfortable than the others.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Like the rest of the flickers, no, unless you count using your teeth. (The Shots Dreamy feels like a light bite, except drawn out into a buzz. It’s difficult to explain without feeling it yourself.) It feels wonderful in its own way though.

READ FULL SHOTS DREAMY REVIEW

👎 Blush Novelties Aria Flutter Tongue Clitoral Stimulator

Product Stats

• $30 USD
• Purple/pink
• 2.5 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✖️ Waterproof (only splashproof)
• ✔️ Quiet
• Mostly easy cleaning (make sure to rinse out the nozzle)

The Aria Flutter is a tiny easter egg with an even tinier “tongue.” Pop off the lid to reveal a soft silicone nozzle and the fluttering tab within.

Like the French Kiss Casanova (which has a stronger motor than the Flutter), the Aria Flutter’s tongue provides “sharp,” targeted stimulation. The Aria Flutter’s tongue is smaller and softer, which does reduce the slapping intensity. But the tongue is inside a nozzle, so you have no choice but to place it directly on your clit. If your clitoris is “buried” by your outer labia and your clitoral hood is thick/fixed, you might find the Aria Flutter can’t adequately reach you.

In my opinion, it’s probably better to spend a couple extra bucks and buy one of the French Kiss toys. Unless you’re keen on the Aria Flutter’s Easter themeing.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Not tongue-based oral sex, no. The rapid fluttering tongue feels like a continuous bite, but in a good way? But not as good as the French Kiss toys.

MASSAGER STYLE ORAL SEX SIMULATORS

These are toys without defined tongues; instead, they have swirling, rubbing nubs.

👍 Lora DiCarlo Filare Swirling Oral Sex Simulator

Product Stats

• $180 USD
• Green
• 4 inches long
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof (only spashproof)
• ✔️ Quiet-ish (emits a noisy whirring)
• Mostly easy to clean (ugh, seams)

The Filare is unlike any of the other toy types in this guide. Its tongue-like feature isn’t a tongue at all: it’s a pair of beads that rotate in rapid circles beneath its silicone surface. This provides a rhythmic, swirling massage of stimulation that does feel strangely like an approximation of oral sex – but without the range or nuance.

The Filare Oral Sex Simulator is an intriguing alternative to traditional vibrators (and even to more flicky/flappy oral toys) because its sensations are so subdued. I never feel overstimulated from the Filare. That being said, I’m cautious about recommending it.

As sensual and pleasurable as the Filare’s unique massage is, it only works for me with its settings maxed. If your clitoris is ‘buried’ by outer labia or a thick/loose clitoral hood, it’s difficult to use the Filare. It’s a wide toy, and the beads don’t protrude much. It also requires a lot of lube to make its sensations slick and mouth-like rather than chafing.

Does it feel like oral sex?

The circular, massaging pressure on my clitoris feels startlingly similar to getting oral. It’s a toy, so it’s not (and will never be) a match/replacement, but the friction has a lot of the same pushy, roiling stimulation as the “press your tongue flat and knead it in circles” technique.

The oral-like massage is limited in range, but the inhuman consistency (it keeps going at the exact same pace long after a human would tap out with a tongue cramp) makes up for it.

READ FULL FILARE ORAL SEX SIMULATOR REVIEW

RIGID TONGUE STYLE ORAL SEX SIMULATORS

These are toys that don’t move mechanically; instead, vibrations make their tips flicker/flap.

👎 CalExotics Mini Marvels Marvelous Flicker

Product Stats

• $52 USD
• Pink
• 5 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof (only spashproof)
• ✔️ Quiet
• Easy to clean

The Marvelous Flicker is one of the only toys on this list that really looks like a tongue (albeit cartoonishly smooth and hot pink.) Rather than move its tongue mechanically, the Marvelous Flicker moves from vibration – but only the very tip.

This toy is silicone from top to bottom. The tongue is firm, but flexible, so if you cram it against yourself it’ll bend to accommodate. It can be used as an insertable, if you don’t mind its modest size and thin, scooped shape.

Frustratingly, the Marvelous Flicker’s vibrations are stronger in its knob-shaped handle than in the tongue. The vibes are more rumbly (thumpy and deep-reaching) than buzzy (ticklish and shallow), but I’d still only classify the Flicker as low-to-medium strength. Because it’s a rigid toy and the vibrations aren’t especially strong, the flickering tip is… muted. It barely moves, and it doesn’t maintain that momentum when you hold it to your clit.

Compared to the thinner and more powerful Tongue-Gasm or proper Flicker-style tongue toys like the French Kiss Casanova, the Marvelous Flicker’s a flicky dud.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Nah. Its only appeal is if you’re looking for a firm, insertable toy that’s a tongue in shape but not in movement. Even then, I’d recommend the Laguna Beach Lover instead.

👎 Pipedream 3Some Holey Trinity Triple Tongue Vibrator

Product Stats

• $75 USD
• Pink
• 7 inches tall (middle tongue is 1 inch wide)
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✖️ Waterproof (only splashproof)
• ✖️ Quiet (swirling tongues are shrill)
• Easy to clean

Holey Trinity is a triple-tongued vibrator that’s designed for simultaneous clitoral, vaginal, and anal stimulation. The central tongue vibrates while the two smaller tongues sway and swirl.

The Holey Trinity is an ambitious design. For it to work with your body, all three tongues have to line up with your individual anatomy. The tongues are pretty close together and don’t have a lot of flexibility, so the range of bodies the Holey Trinity will work with is really limited.

The center tongue’s vibrations are moderately strong but buzzy. The tongue doesn’t move, but the vibrations are powerful enough to make the tip flicker if you want to use it externally.

Depending on how well the toy lines up, the clitoral and anal tongues’ rotations are direct (and pokey) but can’t muster more than gentle movement. If you like mild fingertip rubbing directly on your clitoris, you might enjoy the Holey Trinity’s tiny front tongue?

Does it feel like oral sex?

Not really. The two small, swirling tongues are too weak to provide tongue-like pressure, and the central tongue is just a flexible vibrator.

READ FULL HOLEY TRINITY REVIEW

👍 Pipedream Fantasy For Her Ultimate Tongue-Gasm Stimulator

Product Stats

• $80 USD
• Purple
• 7 inches tall
• ✔️ Rechargeable
• ✔️ Waterproof
• ✖️ Quiet (not super loud, has a droning motorcycle rumble)
• Kinda easy to clean (ugh, seams)

Like the Marvelous Flicker, the Tongue-Gasm’s tongue doesn’t move mechanically/robotically. The toy’s vibrations cause the tongue to move. But it’s so much better at it than the Marvelous Flicker.

The Tongue-Gasm’s firm silicone tongue thins out along a deep curve to form a whipping tip. The toy’s vibrations are strong and rumbly, so they’re actually very effective at flapping the tongue tip, which flickers so fast it’s a blur. Although the movement looks a lot like the French Kiss or Dreamy, the Tongue-Gasm’s tip is broader and provides a thumpier “lick.” It’s not as “sharp” as the French Kiss. It feels like rapid tapping, or a more friction-based manifestation of vibration.

The vibrations themselves are exquisite and by far my favorite on this list. I can bypass the flickering entirely and instead cup my clitoris with the tongue’s curve. The vibes travel into the handle though, which can make gripping it annoying considering it’s already unnecessarily huge.

While you can technically use the Ultimate Tongue-Gasm as an insertable, it’s not as comfortable as the Marvelous Flicker or Laguna Beach.

Does it feel like oral sex?

Like other rapid fluttering tongue toys, the Tongue-Gasm’s only similarity to oral sex is that the stimulation feels kinda bitey. But good bitey. With really delicious vibrations to back it up.

READ FULL ULTIMATE TONGUE-GASM REVIEW

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