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“This clam is jammed!” I once quipped to a guy I was chatting up. It was a light-hearted way to start the “I can’t have vaginal sex” conversation that came up every time I wanted to get laid in my 20’s. I always try to […]
Grinding (also called humping) is when you rub your genitals against an object or consenting partner for sexual pleasure. It’s all about movement, texture, and friction: the slick glide of a vulva against a bedpost, the firm press of a penis on a partner’s ass, […]
Triton is the Greek merman god of the sea. Appropriately, it’s also the name of this debut dildo from Closet Play Sex Toys, which has waves (heh) of ridges on its blue and gold shaft. The Triton is a very handsome, elegantly designed dildo. Between […]
I recently went (vaxxed and masked) to a movie theater for the first time in about two years. A momentous occasion! Naturally, I saw the movie about the crappy journalist and his goopy alien husband. Venom is prime monster fucker fodder. His sinister jaws, tentacle-esque […]
If you’ve spent any time in sex positive circles, you’ve probably heard the phrase “sex work is work.” It means that sex work – which includes performing in porn or on adult livestream sites, stripping/dancing, paid phone or text sex, and in-person sexual experiences – […]
The sex toy industry is a mix of aging giants and innovative trailblazers. Go into any shop and you’ll see a newly released app-enabled gadget in minimalist packaging sitting on the same shelf as a battery-powered egg vibe with porn and tacky fonts on the […]
Note: As of 2021, Geeky Sex Toys has closed its doors. Out of respect for their craft and in gratitude of their collaboration, I’m posting this review as-is even though the toy can no longer be purchased. I’m generally not the kind of nerd who […]
It’s been weird getting back into the front-facing part of blogging. Answering emails that have been gathering digital dust for weeks. Peeking at Twitter. Trying to find the time (and the social spoons) to send pitches, answer friends, and make plans for the future. I’ve […]
Penetration is intimidating and/or painful for many people. Inexperience, trauma, surgery, disability, curiosity, illness – there are countless reasons folks might want or need a small, comfortable insertable. As someone with both vaginismus (haunted vagina) and IBS (haunted guts), I’m keenly aware of how few […]
Some sex toys have a learning curve. The Njoy Pure Wand – which is beloved by so many for its firm, targeted g-spot and prostate stimulation – is somewhat infamous for being difficult to master. According to the Pure Wand’s ardent fans, the results are […]