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(Content Warning: depression, chronic illness, sex negativity, current events, pet illness/death.) 2020 was one of the hardest years of my life. The world was literally on fire. Florida unsurprisingly became an epicenter in the plague. The openly racist Orlando police attacked protestors and deployed […]
This past week, I celebrated my blog’s third anniversary by drinking some Jack Daniel’s Tennessee Apple and crying because I’m so behind on my review queue. Don’t get me wrong, this blog is the second best thing to ever happen to me. (The first best […]
When people ask what I do for a living – a question I don’t love, but that’s a conversation for another day – I joyously explain that I write about queer sex on the internet. As it turns out, it’s difficult to grow and monetize […]
There’s a long, wet, writhing history of people seeing the eroticism of tentacles. But I’m not here to talk about the history of sexualizing the powerful, undulating limbs of beasts both oceanic and fictional. I’m here to talk about me doing it. And dildos. (Content […]
As often happens when conversations around racial injustice get sustained traction in (white) public consciousness, folks are putting together lists of Black voices we should be listening to and uplifting in our respective communities. Here are a few good ones: 12+ Black Sex Educators Who […]
[Content Warnings: Frank discussion of poverty and poverty-related struggles, homelessness, and depression.] By the time I was 12 years old, I’d lived in 22 different places. It wasn’t because one of my parents was military, or had an interesting job that required frequent travel. It […]
There is a lot of negative stigma surrounding sex toys. I’ve heard people say that they’re frivolous, or they’re only for lonely perverts, or that they’re a crutch for people who don’t know how to pleasure their partner(s) “right.” Since my blog is about 90% […]
(Content Notes: References to medical and dental issues, homophobia, transphobia, and poverty-related suffering.) A number of years ago, Buster was hospitalized due to a disastrous combination of untreated pancreatitis, pneumonia, an ungodly number of gallstones, and dangerous fluid build up in their abdomen. Because we […]
So I was catching up on pleasure product news recently when I saw an upcoming release that got me really excited. Finally! More of a thing I want to exist, and likely at a price point that doesn’t make me cringe! But upon rereading the […]
[Content Notes: Frank discussion of autistic burnout, mental illness (including suicidal urges), internalized ableism, and the woes of capitalism.] I’ve had depression most of my life, and bouts of suicidal ideation since my teens. These struggles are so normal to me that sometimes I forget […]