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(Content Note: frank discussion of non-violent transphobia.) My partner Buster started using they/them pronouns around the same time I started this blog. We’d long-since come to terms with both of us being some flavor of trans. But we didn’t feel the need to explore more […]
(Content Warning: depression, chronic illness, sex negativity, current events, pet illness/death.) 2020 was one of the hardest years of my life. The world was literally on fire. Florida unsurprisingly became an epicenter in the plague. The openly racist Orlando police attacked protestors and deployed […]
When people ask what I do for a living – a question I don’t love, but that’s a conversation for another day – I joyously explain that I write about queer sex on the internet. As it turns out, it’s difficult to grow and monetize […]
Is your sex shop a safe place to browse for people of marginalized identities? Do you think you’re welcoming to trans customers, Black customers, and disabled customers? Have you ever even asked yourself that question? I’ve scoured a lot of sex shops in my years […]
[Content Warnings: Frank discussion of poverty and poverty-related struggles, homelessness, and depression.] By the time I was 12 years old, I’d lived in 22 different places. It wasn’t because one of my parents was military, or had an interesting job that required frequent travel. It […]
So I was catching up on pleasure product news recently when I saw an upcoming release that got me really excited. Finally! More of a thing I want to exist, and likely at a price point that doesn’t make me cringe! But upon rereading the […]
A smutty essay about dysphoria, rough sex that heals, and the harness that’s starting a story. [Content Warnings: Gender dysphoria, rough sex including biting and bruising, erotic framing of ownership-based tropes, mentions of poverty-related suffering.] – The setting: last December. Though I’ve spent the last […]