{"id":3403,"date":"2020-07-09T18:25:18","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T18:25:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bettybutch.com\/?p=3403"},"modified":"2020-10-25T14:37:06","modified_gmt":"2020-10-25T14:37:06","slug":"support-black-creators-in-sex-positivity-sex-education-and-sexual-wellness","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bettybutch.com\/index.php\/2020\/07\/09\/support-black-creators-in-sex-positivity-sex-education-and-sexual-wellness\/","title":{"rendered":"Support Black Creators in Sex Positivity, Sex Education, and Sexual Wellness"},"content":{"rendered":"

As often happens when conversations around racial injustice get sustained traction in (white) public consciousness, folks are putting together lists of Black voices we should be listening to and uplifting in our respective communities. Here are a few good ones: 12+ Black Sex Educators Who Are Blazing Sex-Positive Trails<\/a>, Black Sex Educators You Should Be Following<\/a>, 10 Black Sexuality Professionals<\/a>.<\/p>\n

But (as others have noted), we need to do more<\/em> than just listen.<\/p>\n

Why support people on Patreon?<\/h4>\n

We need to pay Black creators, including those in the adult (and adult adjacent) industry<\/a>. We need to pay them not because they \u201cneed our help,\u201d but because Black creators are underpaid, undervalued, and underpromoted. Paying them means hiring them, buying their books, paying to attend their online workshops, using their affiliate links\u2026 and joining their Patreons.<\/p>\n

I know, I know: Patreon sucks<\/a>. But it\u2019s the most popular and accessible monthly pledge platform.<\/p>\n

Monthly pledges are a straightforward way to consistently financially support creators whose content matters. Patreon also allows those of us in low income situations to give what we can: $1 is the minimum pledge, and you can cancel whenever circumstances necessitate.<\/p>\n

Here are 6 of the Black adult industry creatives I support on Patreon. I recommend you consider doing the same.<\/p>\n

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Dr. Nadine Thornhill<\/h4>\n

Dr. Thornhill<\/a> is a sex educator that makes thorough yet engaging videos on sex positive parenting, pop culture, and current events. \u201cAs the adult in our family, we have a responsibility when talking to our children about sexuality to help them sort out their beliefs and their boundaries,\u201d Dr. Thornhill points out in Values, Facts, and Myths: 3 Steps to a Great Sex Talk<\/a>. Her work helps demystify having \u201cthe talk\u201d (or more accurately, the many, many talks) with your kids. She describes herself as \u201cyour friendly neighborhood sex educator,\u201d and I couldn\u2019t come up with a better description of her and her content if I tried.<\/p>\n

Dr. Thornhill was also co-host of the truly amazing, inclusive Every Body Curious<\/a> series, which teaches kids age 9-12 about healthy relationships, sexuality, and staying safe online.<\/p>\n

You can follow Dr. Nadine Thornhill on Youtube<\/a> and Twitter<\/a>, and support her on Patreon<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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The Butters Hygienics Company<\/h4>\n

The Butters \u2013 founded by Jerome Stuart Nichols \u2013 makes and carries<\/a> bath, skincare, and sexual health products made with 100% vegan ingredients. \u201cThe Butters is a brand based on simplicity, honesty, and ingenuity,\u201d writes Nichols on the shop\u2019s About page<\/a>, and notes that the business was inspired in part by the need to \u201cfulfill my new relationships\u2019 incredible demand for quality friction assistance.\u201d The super slick, oil-based Butters Lube<\/a> he created has since made it onto the digital shelves of the likes of Peepshow Toys and SheVibe.<\/p>\n

I have a number of Butters products on my sink counter, but their cleanser bar<\/a> is literally my favorite smell in the world. It\u2019s tart, orange-y, and simultaneously pretty strong and pleasantly light. If a god exists, Nichols has captured their form in a bar of soap.<\/p>\n

You can shop The Butters Hygienics Co on their website<\/a>, follow them on Twitter<\/a>, and support Nichols on Patreon<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Kat Blaque<\/h4>\n

Kat Blaque is an activist, educator, and Youtuber<\/a> who talks about her experiences as a Black, trans, polyamorous woman and member of the BDSM community. She does long-form educational videos surrounding social justice issues, pop culture, and even the latest Youtuber drama. But most of Blaque\u2019s content is presented through chat videos \u2013 called True Tea \u2013 where she encourages her community to learn and grow with her as she shares her insights and opinions.<\/p>\n

\u201cI figured I would come to Youtube and talk to you guys about this, because you guys know me. I\u2019m a Virgo, I am so over-thinky and over-analyzey, I can\u2019t help myself,\u201d Blaque jokes in How Many Partners Is Too Many?<\/a> Blaque\u2019s unapologetic honesty, sense of humor, and excellent storytelling make her videos feel like Facetiming with a friend.<\/p>\n

You can follow Kat Blaque on Youtube<\/a> and Twitter<\/a>, and support her on Patreon<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Wear Your Voice Magazine<\/h4>\n

\u201cWear Your Voice is a digital magazine<\/a> for and by LGBTQIA+ Black, Indigenous, and people of color (BIPOC) based in the United States,\u201d explains WYV\u2019s story and mission page<\/a>. Their work covers everything you\u2019d expect from a thriving feminist publication, including politics, fashion, media recommendation lists, mental health, activism, and sexuality.<\/p>\n

Last year, Planned Parenthood sponsored a series called Summer of Sex<\/a>, which allowed BIPOC writers to talk about everything from fatphobia to BDSM. Writing about dysphoria and sex as a Black nonbinary person<\/a>, E Young points out, \u201cIt matters that we discuss it because sex has never been about just sex. This is politics, it\u2019s work, it\u2019s bodily acceptance and autonomy.\u201d<\/p>\n

You can read an array of essays and articles on Wear Your Voice\u2019s website<\/a>, follow them on Twitter<\/a>, and support them on Patreon<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Eclipse Erotica<\/h4>\n

Eclipse is a queer, Black erotica blog<\/a> written by TJ and hosted on Patreon. Their stories have included pussy eating, flogging, biting, Daddy doms, phone sex, and masturbating with sex toys. TJ has narrated several of their pieces; their soothing, sexy voice is perfect for audio smut. They\u2019ve also written a few non-fiction articles, including sexy activities for social distancing.<\/p>\n

\u201cAll of the work I do \u2013 my content, my stories, everything \u2013 they are based on one simple concept: my body is a good thing,\u201d reads the caption on one of TJ\u2019s Patreon posts.<\/p>\n

You can read TJ\u2019s erotica by pledging at least $5 on Patreon<\/a> (lower pledges will still support their work!), and follow them on Twitter<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Poly Role Models<\/h4>\n

Kevin Patterson is an author, educator, and speaker. He started the Poly Role Models project \u2013 which has both a blog<\/a> and a Youtube channel<\/a> \u2013 where he highlights polyamorous folks in an effort to spread polyam positivity, honesty, and acceptance. Patterson\u2019s Poly Role Models work is \u201cfor polyamorous people looking for direction and representation,\u201d and includes frank discussions about mistakes made in polyamorous relationships. His book Love\u2019s Not Colorblind discusses race and racism in the polyamorous community, outlining both the oppressive systems that exist, and ways to tackle them.<\/p>\n

\u201cIt doesn\u2019t take a lot to use [your] platform, even if your platform is just like your group of friends, you can have that impact,\u201d Patterson points out<\/a> while discussing the themes from the Poly Living keynote.<\/p>\n

You can see all of Poly Role Models on Patterson\u2019s Tumblr<\/a>, follow him on Twitter<\/a>, and support him on Patreon<\/a>.<\/p>\n

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Want to do more? Check out this Black Lives Matter resource list<\/a> that includes everything from petitions that need signing to safety tips for in-person protesting. Don\u2019t understand why you need to do something? Watch this<\/a>.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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