{"id":1318,"date":"2018-10-11T21:50:07","date_gmt":"2018-10-11T21:50:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bettybutch.com\/?p=1318"},"modified":"2019-05-22T17:39:58","modified_gmt":"2019-05-22T17:39:58","slug":"am-i-a-sex-blogging-superhero","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bettybutch.com\/index.php\/2018\/10\/11\/am-i-a-sex-blogging-superhero\/","title":{"rendered":"Am I a Sex Blogging Superhero…? Plus, Resistbot!"},"content":{"rendered":"

I don\u2019t know exactly when<\/em> I first discovered sex blogs (sometime in late 2016 or early 2017 probably), but I know how<\/em> I did. Back when I was more heavily involved in nerd culture and writing about comic books, another comic book blogger shared a piece from DangerousLilly<\/a> about toxic sex toys. I don\u2019t remember the snippet they quoted, but it resonated with my terrible experiences with jelly toys, so I clicked. And I kept clicking, consuming post after post, devouring information I had never thought to seek out.<\/p>\n

I sought out other pillars of the sex toy reviewer community, hungry for more voices, and subsequently ferreted through their blog rolls for even more \u2013 but that only got me so far. It wasn\u2019t until I noticed a Sex Blogging Superhero<\/a> badge on someone\u2019s sidebar that I discovered how big the community was. The Sex Blogging Superheroes list was long, but the sex blog directory itself was even longer. Beyond sex toy reviews, there were kink blogs and sex educators and polyam sites \u2013 a huge, branching network of passionate people sharing their knowledge, experiences, and perspectives on a variety of topics I\u2019ve always considered myself invested in but never thought to engage with directly, especially not regularly.<\/p>\n

And now, this year, I have the chance to be on that list<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>\n

<\/p>\n

Community for me has always been built on a shared nerd fandom: fans of this show or that comic or these books, celebrating and discoursing in some corner of social media. I had never thought to seek out a community \u2013 a fandom \u2013 centering sex positivity\u2026 but once I found it, everything<\/em> changed for me. I\u2019ve prioritized pleasure in my life and in my relationship in a way that I previously shied away from. I\u2019ve started exploring again. I\u2019m learning new things daily, on purpose! And with the launch of my blog back in January, I started trying to be part of someone else\u2019s change.<\/p>\n

If you think I\u2019ve made some kind of small difference or have the potential of making a difference for others, I\u2019d love it if you took a moment to vote for me here. You don\u2019t have to log in or sign up for anything, and all it takes is a single click!<\/p>\n

Vote for Betty Butch<\/a><\/h2>\n

Disclaimer: I know Kinkly as a site has screwed up, and I\u2019m not always a fan of the work they post (for the love of god can we not promote weird cissexism for search clicks.) I recognize that they need to be held accountable and to high standards, because they\u2019re an educational resource \u2013 and, I suspect, often the first and only resource \u2013 for a big audience. That kind of reach and influence needs to be positive, inclusive\/just, and barrier-breaking.<\/p>\n

But as someone who uses Twitter \u2013 whose problematic policies and very public fuckups are innumerable \u2013 I\u2019m pretty firmly in the camp of pushing resources to be better over straight-up canceling them. I think Kinkly does some good work and has the potential to do better. But that\u2019s a personal decision, and you\u2019re under no obligation to vote for me if you feel it\u2019s an endorsement of a platform you\u2019re uncomfortable with.<\/p>\n

And while you\u2019re all here\u2026<\/p>\n

Have you heard of Resistbot<\/a>?<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a lightning-fast, anxiety-free way to reach out to the politicians tasked with representing you. From the White House to your local newspaper, Resistbot provides an easy way to get your voice heard. It\u2019s literally as easy as typing up a Twitter DM \u2013 which means if you\u2019ve had time to tweet your frustration and fear, you\u2019ve had time to send it directly to the assholes responsible for causing it.<\/p>\n

\"\"
[Description: A screencap of a DM interaction with @Resistbot on Twitter. It prompts “who do you want to write?” and provides a button for Congress, House, Senate, and Governor.]<\/figcaption><\/figure>Seriously, it\u2019s been so fucking cathartic to yell at the soulless reptilian currently posing as governor of Florida and have Resistbot<\/a> handle the rest. Rick Scott doesn\u2019t accept faxes, so Resistbot mails a physical letter to him instead \u2013 and nothing soothes me like knowing his office is politely bombarded with my outrage regularly. Resistbot even writes up the opening and closing portion of the letter!<\/p>\n

Resistbot also checked my voter registration for me, occasionally sends me a DM about the bullshit relevant politicians are pulling so I can immediately react, and bunches more.<\/p>\n

You can read more on Resistbot\u2019s website<\/a>, or simply follow them on Twitter<\/a>.<\/p>\n

\"\"
[Description: A screencap of a DM interaction with @Resistbot on Twitter. It’s offering to DM me once a month about my voter registration.]<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

I don’t know exactly when I first discovered sex blogs (sometime in late 2016 or early 2017 probably), but I know how I did. Back when I was more heavily involved in nerd culture and writing about comic books, another comic book blogger shared a […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1319,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[486,724,16],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1318","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-adventures-in-blogging","category-essays-articles","category-essays-guides"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t